Part 2

(Part 2)

We all desire close relationship, we cherish friends who are closer to us than others. While I have nothing against close friendship, please be careful of the nature of the friendship. Friendship can be healthy or unhealthy, even close ones. In fact many of you will agree that close friends hurts most when betrayal happens. Conversely, think of the nice people around you whom you share a shallower relationship; it feels sweet even you are not close to that person.

Close and healthy friendship/group is a gift. A gift is something that you cannot demand or manipulate in order to obtain it. People get hurt when they try too hard to close up the gap when both parties are not ready. You end up with a closeness that cannot be sustained and you even have to betray your own personality in order to gain acceptance. This is unhealthy. And it can turn really bad after some time.

For close friends, there is nothing wrong about meeting less often. I can sense many of you are worried that if you don't catch up frequently, you will lose them. I met with my childhood friends recently, the last time we met was four years ago. In the span of these four years, I think of them every now and then, I'm sure they do likewise but we never contacted one another until this Chinese New Year, we were all free to meet and we just met. We had a great gathering. Healthy relationships are able to endure the test of time. (end of part 2)

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